(can one hour change anything?)
yea, yea
i watch lots of tv... especially since i have all this time now it seems
but they're TAPES.
i don't actually get to see this things on time...
ANYHOO
last night's episode was called "Pictures of You"
and how their teacher was teaching them about how nobody really cares who you were in high school once you're out in the "real world" - whatever that means.
they were given an assignment to get to know another person in class... and of course, with the magic of television, everything falls into place in fifty minutes.
i'm not being my over-cynical self here, i give the episode some credit there was a realness about it...
i like how their hopes and dreams and secrets had truth in them, and that people somewhere could and probably are feeling just the way these characters are...
it made me wonder could one hour change you?
the question was posed a few times in one of those voice-overs they love to do in the show...
and it's true, i guess.
i think one hour can make someone definitely think about things - not that most people don't think - but as their teacher did, he allowed them to look back, look ahead, and think about the present all in a matter of fifty minutes (not even a full hour).
it's always interesting to have those moments to not so much analyze, but more reflect on one's life...
(this isn't just one of those regular "vague" times that val usually stops and doesn't say whatever it is... but it's more of a pause... not actually thinking of anything in particular... feeling like i don't really have much else to say, but since i've been home all day -again- i just wanted to share some of the things that's inside that crazy head)
hmm...
what else has been going on...?
I've been learning a lot at school these days... i actually read ahead in my family studies class - well, not so much now since we're learning the stuff i read ahead of time and i haven't really read much since -
ANYHOO
Some of those psychology students or anyone who's taken any developmental studies have probably learned about Erikson, and his 8 Stages, or "Ages" as he calls it.
At the time I first read the chapter, I was intrigued by which stage I currently belong in or which anyone else I can think of belongs in as well...
If everything is "on time" most of my peers should be at Stage 6: Sense of intimacy versus isolation (18 to 24 years, although our prof was telling us that the age ranges for most of the groups have been extended in recent years as people are spending more and more time being "adolescent" and many more are having to spend a long time being "parents" to their adult children).
So in this stage the theme is "to lose and find oneself in another". Erikson tells us that during this time, people are to have "established an idea of who one is and where one is going in life... during which, a person is presented with the challenge of learning the skills that are necessary for conducting an intimate relationship with another". He continues to explain how this is a time when personal boundaries are lowered, and people experience being vulnerable with one another. "The sense of trust that was learned in infancy ... will assist the person in sharing his or her identity as a unique, worthwhile human being with another without fear of losing that identity in the process." --- sounds promising, BUT...
Erikson then explains that "if intimacy is not learned at this optimal stage, a sense of isolation may be established..." A sense of self-devaluation occurs, and individuals learn that "others cannot be trusted in a close, intimate manner" and that "it is much safer for the individual's ego to face life alone". --- dangyo.
But then we look forward to the longest stage, Stage 7: Generativity versus Self-Absorption.
This supposedly lasts until one's old age, in which one takes care of others and becomes responsible for the well-being of others; UNLESS of course they become "preoccupied with his or her own personal needs and interests and ignores those of others... and becomes "his own infant and pet" = self-absorption. --- oh dear, scary.
well, there's that. i shall 'study' some more later. off to tutor... hopefully i help her out.
it's nice to make someone's day, just by saying hello or being able to help them with something.
i watch lots of tv... especially since i have all this time now it seems
but they're TAPES.
i don't actually get to see this things on time...
ANYHOO
last night's episode was called "Pictures of You"
and how their teacher was teaching them about how nobody really cares who you were in high school once you're out in the "real world" - whatever that means.
they were given an assignment to get to know another person in class... and of course, with the magic of television, everything falls into place in fifty minutes.
i'm not being my over-cynical self here, i give the episode some credit there was a realness about it...
i like how their hopes and dreams and secrets had truth in them, and that people somewhere could and probably are feeling just the way these characters are...
it made me wonder could one hour change you?
the question was posed a few times in one of those voice-overs they love to do in the show...
and it's true, i guess.
i think one hour can make someone definitely think about things - not that most people don't think - but as their teacher did, he allowed them to look back, look ahead, and think about the present all in a matter of fifty minutes (not even a full hour).
it's always interesting to have those moments to not so much analyze, but more reflect on one's life...
(this isn't just one of those regular "vague" times that val usually stops and doesn't say whatever it is... but it's more of a pause... not actually thinking of anything in particular... feeling like i don't really have much else to say, but since i've been home all day -again- i just wanted to share some of the things that's inside that crazy head)
hmm...
what else has been going on...?
I've been learning a lot at school these days... i actually read ahead in my family studies class - well, not so much now since we're learning the stuff i read ahead of time and i haven't really read much since -
ANYHOO
Some of those psychology students or anyone who's taken any developmental studies have probably learned about Erikson, and his 8 Stages, or "Ages" as he calls it.
At the time I first read the chapter, I was intrigued by which stage I currently belong in or which anyone else I can think of belongs in as well...
If everything is "on time" most of my peers should be at Stage 6: Sense of intimacy versus isolation (18 to 24 years, although our prof was telling us that the age ranges for most of the groups have been extended in recent years as people are spending more and more time being "adolescent" and many more are having to spend a long time being "parents" to their adult children).
So in this stage the theme is "to lose and find oneself in another". Erikson tells us that during this time, people are to have "established an idea of who one is and where one is going in life... during which, a person is presented with the challenge of learning the skills that are necessary for conducting an intimate relationship with another". He continues to explain how this is a time when personal boundaries are lowered, and people experience being vulnerable with one another. "The sense of trust that was learned in infancy ... will assist the person in sharing his or her identity as a unique, worthwhile human being with another without fear of losing that identity in the process." --- sounds promising, BUT...
Erikson then explains that "if intimacy is not learned at this optimal stage, a sense of isolation may be established..." A sense of self-devaluation occurs, and individuals learn that "others cannot be trusted in a close, intimate manner" and that "it is much safer for the individual's ego to face life alone". --- dangyo.
But then we look forward to the longest stage, Stage 7: Generativity versus Self-Absorption.
This supposedly lasts until one's old age, in which one takes care of others and becomes responsible for the well-being of others; UNLESS of course they become "preoccupied with his or her own personal needs and interests and ignores those of others... and becomes "his own infant and pet" = self-absorption. --- oh dear, scary.
well, there's that. i shall 'study' some more later. off to tutor... hopefully i help her out.
it's nice to make someone's day, just by saying hello or being able to help them with something.
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You know, all this time I've been scared to look at this page because it would be on the computer history, but then I crumbled. Can't stay away :S
How much do you want to be that a boy in the PI misses you too? That poor boy.
An hour can change EVERYTHING. A second can change everything.
As for the "ages" (which drive me crazy because I could never remember the middle ones), I beleive if Erickson studied me, I'd be in the the age group ETERNALLY SCREWED. I also don't know if I will survive to the 7th group. We'll see.
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now that i think about it...
an hour can definitely change a person... like when i go to church, for example, i feel moved by songs every time... but then also there are times the readings affect me too.
a second can change things too.